What should I do?

My husband of 11 years is an excellent provider, a hard worker, faithful, and dependable in a crisis or significant event. However, I feel extremely neglected. I have been crying myself to sleep over this at least 3 nights a week for about the past 6 months. If I tell him that I feel this way, he responds that I need to get my own set of friends. If I talk to him about work, he just puts whatever the issue or problem is in my own lap. For instance, he said "Well, she pays you to put things in perspective for her. Your job is to handle her. You're not doing a very good job." This is in response to my boss complaining all the time about insignificant issues with my staff (taking an extra 2 minutes for lunch, literally, trust me - she's a B!) I have little to no emotional support from him. He is absolutely not a friend to me. I've made multiple appointments with a counselor but he is always to busy to go. What should I do?