Are judges and fire dept. on the silence code in divorce case nj?

rules in favor of fireman in every lie he makes, turns the truth around so he is good guy and ex the bad, makes wifes parents pay for clothes and more for child, makes ex wife pay his court costs to go to court, blocks her every goal to gain training n work, took away car, everything so he doesnt have to pay, wifes parents keep getting stuck with bills. judge says ok and slams my child each time in court. nothhing we can do or say as we arent allowed, even when hes in contemp[t of court. this is justice? thats why i wonder if a silent code.